Expressing Your Emotions

by Ashleigh James / Mar 16, 2015 / Comments

As I write this I am at a challenging point in my life. I'm finally learning about my true self, having more self-belief and finding my voice, however it does not come easy. For this you have to pay a price and personal development is hard. It's the most difficult thing I have ever done, harder than loss and harder than heartbreak. I have ventured down the rabbit hole and I have no desire to climb back out.

My way to approach life is to jump in head first then think about the consequences later. I may experience more pain by doing so but also open myself for more valuable life lessons. I'm aiming to live fearlessly, trust my gut, and try to not let doubt hold me back. And yes, it sounds easier than it actually is.

I have times where I feel like I am swimming but my feet can't touch the ground and I'm fighting to stay afloat. Fighting for breath. This is when I usually experience what I call a "bathroom floor moment" (random, uncontrollable sobbing). Sounds like fun, eh? I used dislike showing any weakness so I would bottle up the emotions, however I found it wasn't doing me any favours and actually resulted in anxiety, and occasionally depression.

I have learned that being present in these moments can be extremely beneficial to my overall health and wellbeing. As long as you aren't harming yourself or others, it can be a process that allows you to know yourself better, get over things quicker and grow stronger.

'Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.' Unknown.

For example, If you're going through a loss of a loved one, a relationship or even a job, make sure you take some time out to address the way it is affecting you and your life. You don't have to put on a brave face and be strong all the time. Write down your feelings, communicate them with someone you trust, or just have a 'good cry'. It can help toward facing it head on and also prepares you to be better equipped to deal with the situation if it arises again.

A word of caution though, make sure you don't overindulge in the emotions and start to wallow, i.e. become a victim or feel sorry for yourself. As humans, we tend to hold on tight to things and to people who have become close to us but we have to learn to let go when the decision has been taken out of our control. It doesn't mean you don't care, it just means you care about your own mental health more. We have to stop feeling guilty for putting ourselves first.

It is all about expressing how you feel in that moment and taking time out to do whatever you need to feed your soul and ensure you feel like yourself again. For this, I turn to my passions; being in nature, creative writing, singing, dancing, exercise or a Skype call home. Whatever is needed to shake off the negativity, self doubt and lack of motivation that often arises during these hard times.

So if you're going through something tough, try to feel it all and know that everything will be ok. As long as you can see what's in front of you, that's all that matters. And although it may be difficult at first, those small steps forward will eventually get you to where you need to be :)

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The Contributor

Ashleigh James


Ashleigh has a strong background in business development, therapies and education within the health and wellness industry. She has been fortunate to work in the UK, Bermuda and Canada.

These fantastic opportunities have helped develop who she is, yet made her question what she wanted in her life. She considers this 'looking within' to be a catalyst for her awakening.

On her journey, she is working on herself by identifying insecurities and issues, particularly around self-worth, and learning to change her response to them.
She believes that this process raises her consciousness as she sheds old programming and belief systems.

Ashleigh feels this continuous personal evolution is part of the global shift in human consciousness.

She'd like to connect with anyone who feels this change and understands the potential we hold to help create a new reality.

Ashleigh is also the Owner/Editor of GEM Magazine.